Express Love

This is not about fast-tracked Love, as in Express trains, this is about expression of Love.  

I happened to watch the movie ABCD recently (it is relatively old). I met a contradiction in KK Menon and Prabhu Deva. Both were having different stand points, former about ‘Impressing’ and latter about ‘Expressing’. Somehow, I was impressed about the debatable but nice concept of how to follow Life.  KK says, we all must Impress people; PD says, we must just be Expressing oneself – and not bother about other aspects. I find it to be an intense thought. I am sure most of us, I lead the pack, waste our time trying to Impress people – and sure, we fail most of the times.  On the other hand, being honest to oneself and Expressing oneself is more important than anything else. The latter would assure peace for sure.  

Express Love, defer expressions of hatred. This is a sacred Rule of life – which will guarantee peace of mind, if not for anything else.

Express Love to your wife. Drop inhibitions about being loud about your love with your wife. That doesn’t mean that you are hen-pecked, unfaithful to your children or parents. Besides, it also doesn’t infer that you are selfish. Say, I Love my wife, that’s it (if you truly do). Not for my sake, or to avoid any brick-bats. Drop all reservations, Loving one’s own wife is indeed bliss.  Feel free to express, after all, you deserve and you rightfully own the relationship along with her.

Loving one’s own mother is Good. Express it. Let us not shy away, or hide it from our spouses. She deserves this and much more. But I am sure not many of us express this readily.  We seem to take this expression for granted. Obviously, this one relationship is truly taken for granted, and why wouldn’t it be. We are right in doing so. But, it would be more pleasant and more fulfilling if we have expressed what we have hidden for years – our expressions about our Love for our mothers. Let’s do it. Make them proud. ‘You wanna see me cry’, ‘have you gone crazy’ are some responses that we can anticipate. But, all for good, let’s express it. A hug, a kiss and a statement. That’s it.

Children, as they grow bigger, we tend to express less. Most of us are obsessed about their health, well-being and careers,  but we tend to talk less. Especially, we, the fathers, tend to shy more than the children themselves.  Be sure when I say, they yearn for our expressions. We have stopped communicating to them. They do understand everything, but why leave it to their comprehension. We can very well make strong statements about what we like about them the most. But we dont, for the fear of being criticised. As we get older, our spouses would team up with children, when it comes to criticism. That makes it more fearsome. But, all in the family, we are the most sought after beings for them. They yearn for our every word of Love and expression of togetherness. Love, still is the only bonding factor that keeps us going. Not money, nothing else. Then why hide what is awesomely true, our Love for the Children. Let’s express it. A Big Hug.

Brothers and Sisters have quite moved away as they got married and started having families of their own. Same with us. But that doesnt break the bonds of togetherness that we always shared for the major part of our lives. We fall short of expression when it comes communicating our Love to our brothers and sisters. It is natural and nothing to regret. Why live that way, let us try and change this routine, by speaking loud about our love and concerns for our siblings. Unfortunately, the modern generations do not have many siblings – be it for good or otherwise. Express Love, this will change the way things are. We will build  a large family.

Friends are the extented family, as always. They make or break the world that we desire to have. How many of us have expressed our Love to our friends. Almost none. We do take them for granted, and more, our Love for them as granted. Here is the difference, unless conveyed, Love to friends are not really expressed or understood. While we may tolerate each other’s follies for a long time, we need to be speaking about Love for each other as frequently as possible. Not just for us friends, for the families that we represent. Thus, the bonding gets stronger and goes on to build the extended large-family.  Friends are the reason for our not breaking down during the hardships that we face once in a while. Let’s voice Love for them. Say, I Love you pal. Done.

Recap, impressing someone has a very short-termed and insignificant effect,  while expression of ones true Love has the longest effect. Expression when honest, besides carrying a long-term effect, will give us uttermost satisfaction, inner-peace and a great sense of achievement. Try it, then, let’s talk.