Won’t Get What You Don’t Deserve

This discussion is quite a variant of What you sow, you reap. You won’t get what you don’t deserve.

Folks, Trust-Deficit is emphatically one strong reason that applies to so many failing relationships. It could be personal or business, relationship is a relationship dot. Now apply this – when you won’t give trust, what right do you have to expect it. Don’t see me on the other side either. I for that matter, haven’t got closer to many clearly because I didn’t deserve.

Just pick anyone in your clout – whom you have not endeared since that soul did not get any close to your expectations. Now, research on what efforts you made, even in your extreme state of servitude to that one, have you been true and yet been betrayed of your expectations. As intense as one gets, the matter of trust – built through action and expression – would yield a fulfilling relationship.

This discussion is quite away from our earlier discussions – as this one points fingers back unto us as the cause for all the effects that we are subjected to. We should question ourselves, ‘Have I given enough to demand the courtesies or favours’. If no, I have no business to expect and get disappointed. If I have not been trust-worthy to my love, what gives me the right to claim it from the other side.

In any given circumstance, relationships – far or near – working or familial – all need to be built with time, effort and seriously on trust. If I do not provide an iota of comfort to the other that I am not doing a thing for the sake of pure deed, and when my actions can be clearly indicative of a selfish motive, then no matter what I do, I cannot win any relationship. Instead, if any of my actions point to honest efforts to nurture the relationship, it will certainly be appreciated – even if it is not as immediately as I want it to be.

So does the professional relationships too. If I carry a transactional frame of mind when I conduct my daily chores with colleagues, up or down the ladder, then how am I contributing to the emotions that binds and builds a Team – up and on mutual trust. By sheer position I should’nt be blaming the members for not performing on the collective goals.

Take a walk, think about the one linkage that is now paining. Go back in time and recall what all you did to establish the Trust factor. Have you done enough to deserve. When convinced, don’t bother anymore about it, you will get it sooner than later. But, again, won’t get what you don’t deserve.