Pain and Agony

Pain and Agony both indicate the same very unpleasant feeling, varying in intensity and time. So unpleasant, we wouldn’t like to think of it. But when it happens in whatever ways, for those moments when we are in it, the whole world would have fallen on us.  Remember pain and agony  during Kingfisher times (read good times – I know you haven’t come out of the Mallya bug). This is to analyze and trigger self awareness that would survive during the times of torment.

Observation of pain would be very important to bring out the right remedy and to avoid furthering the damages. Also, it helps to determine whether the pain is just a perceived one or has a real reason behind.  The discussion here is about identifying and understanding what brings us pain, on a emotional note. Be it on a painful relationship, bodily pain or hurt in work place.

Most frequently, pain is perceived.  Our thoughts provide the stimuli for pain in the emotional context. When one experiences a pain, he/she will by all chances, develop a phobic behaviour when faced with another instance of the same kind. Hence dealing with physical pain is relatively easier than the emotional pain.  It could be as simple as correcting ones expectations from a relationship or services or a product or to the extent of what to expect from a pain-killer. In order to arrive there, each one of us need to do some research on our pain areas.  Our vulnerabilities increase as we tend to become more sensitive than being sensible to such stimuli. This is where we need to work harder. With efforts, we can validate our reactions, strengthen the core strengths and retaliate better during our future encounters. Even more, we can prevent pain and build on gains.

We can approach pain by applying root cause analysis as simple as ‘5 why- and -1 hows’. Never rule out the option to go to an expert to take advise.  A doctor, or elders in the family or seniors in profession, based on the source of your pain, will help you guide you to the remedy. While appreciating our own reflexes to pain, with some thought over the very quality and source of it, some rationale would ensue during such tormented times. Going a step further, physical pain can also be dealt with therapeutic remedies.

The more elaborate details on physiological aspects of pain and pain management is well described by Diana Rodriguez in http://www.everydayhealth.com/pain-management/how-pain-works.aspx.

Suggest spend some time to take note of your pain(s), analyze, sort them qualitatively on basis of intensity and time, work on it, boldly seek help. Get rid of it, or at least reduce it to insignificance in worst case. Share your successes with others – and help uproot their pain.